Between Friends - Interview with Anonymum
Posted on June 23, 2008 - Filed Under Just For Fun, friends
Most of you are probably aware that Moe has been doing interviews like a mad woman on a Harley over at the Nook of Oz. If you don’t skedaddle on over there and check them out. Today, my interview is up - or should be going up soon. I thought it only fair though, that we turn the tables and get a little chatfest going with our very own Baba Wawa.
I found Moe’s answers honest, candid and in some cases, a little surprising. I think you’ll find it all very interesting and perhaps it will give you a look into another layer of a woman, so many call Mum. And with no furthe adieu…
1. What is the greatestest injustice you have ever suffered in your life and have you forgiven the perpetrator?
When my sister gave evidence in the family law court for my then husband, during a custody battle. Her testimony was that I was an unfit mother and didn’t deserve to have the girls live with me. It created a siutation where I didn’t speak to her for over 20 years, and it’s only in the last 18 months I’ve come to the conclusion it was time to let it be. I can be somewhat pigheaded at times. Most of me has forgiven her, yes, a part of me will never forgive her and it will never, as long as I live be forgotten, nor will it be understood how you could do that to a family member. Did no fucking good anyway, I ended up with the girls when it was over. I had the last say in the end.
2. What is the biggest lie that people tell themselves and do you tell the same lie to yourself?
That past wrongs against them have been forgiven and forgotten, and that nothing has ever affected them long term. The more I see of people, the more I believe it. Every person alive has issues with one thing or another. To deny it is an outright lie. Yes, absolutely I’ve been guilty of it, just not so much these days. Time and age bring a self awareness and the freedom to admit there have been past events which continue to haunt you no matter what. Everybody has demons. It’s just that some of us are more willing to admit it than others. It’s not an easy thing to admit you’re not 110% well adjusted. I’m there right now, so I speak from first hand experience.
3. What one unanswered dream are you still unwilling to let go of, no matter how improbable the realization?
This was a hard one, Annie. I had to think extra hard about it. Truth be told, owning a boat to live on. That, to me, represents the ultimate in personal freedom. When you get sick of one place you up anchor and find another. You cant do that with a house. Someone said to me once that I would never be happy staying in the one place for too long no matter what. It would seem from this answer they were right. The idea of going from one place to another as the fancy takes me is one I’ve had for as long as I can remember.
4. If you could make time stand still and keep one moment from your past, what moment would that be?
This question gave me pause, and in fact I had a different answer, then changed my mind. The original answer was far too contentious to be verbalised if that makes sense? I weighed up the pro’s and con’s, and the very first time Mark kissed me would win hands down! This husband of mine has a way of kissing me passionatley that makes me feel like I’m the only person on earth he’s EVER kissed, and the only person he ever WANTED to kiss. I tell him regularly he has the softest, most fuckable mouth I’ve ever come across {yes, pun intended!} and I’ll stand by that till the day I die. That first one was an absolute doozy! If it was possible to physically relive it over and over again, I would.
5. If you could ask anyone in the world (whether living or dead, celebrity or common man) one question, who would it be and what would you ask?
JFK. Did he ever suspect he would be assassinated and if so, would he have avoided that place on that fateful day? Yeah, that’s close to 2, but the answer to one without the other bit would be useless I think. I’m greedy. What can I say? Besides, if I had the opportunity, I’m not passing it up!
6. If you could have anything in the world that you wanted, which wasn’t a material item, what would it be?
The ability to sing, and sing well. No hesitation here. I would love to be able to move people with songs.
7. What does blogging fulfill for you - or does it?
This was hard because I’ve never seen it as fulfilling anything. Having said that, it brought me you, Michael and Evyl, all 3 of whom are extra special to me, plus many other people I can relate to. Perhaps that’s the fulfillment and I simply never realised it until now?
8. What is your favorite made up word (by you) and give us its definition.
I have to go with snortle. It’s a term I use to describe when Mark is asleep beside me, snoring his head off! He’s snortling!!! Now that’s a real Morkyism!
9. If you had met Mark earlier in your life, do you think you would have had the good sense to marry him then or would you have blown it?
I’m not convinced Mark and I would have what we have now had I met him earlier. We both needed to experience what we had to that point, in order to understand the way the other thought, and why each of us were as wary of the feelings that engulfed us at the time. Mine and Mark’s story is one that defies any logical explanation. Many, many people speak of love at first sight, we experienced it. It’s like there was “something” that physically maifested itself the minute we spoke on the phone. The first call ever lasted more than 5 hours and by that time I was close to being in love sight unseen, and he says the same. The minute we laid eyes on each other, we were both gone! I’m not 100% convinced it would have been that way had me met before we both went to hell and back a couple of times. In fact I don’t think we would even have liked each other before that. At the time I met him, I was looking for a fuck buddy, nothing more, nothing less. 6 months later we married in a cloud of love that has never really dissipated. It seems to get lost among the daily grind of life now and then, but when I look around the problems hard enough and really make the effort? I still see the cloud. It’s a love that endures, and I’m not sure if we had been any younger that we would have found the type of love and connection I speak of.
10. What situation or action would cause you to accost and bitch slap a total stranger, regardless of the consequences?
If they threatened my husband, children or grandchildren in any way shape or form. There would be NO hesitation. They’d go down like a bag of shit!!! And in fact I’ve done it. No shock there I guess?
Thanks, Moe, for your candid and very interesting answers - you’ve impressed me once again, with your utter lack of guile and your trademark straightforwardness. And…you even surprised me on a couple of these - in a fun way. Love ya!
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Very good questions, Annie.
And great answers, Anonymum.
i say keep holding out for that houseboat.
My husband and i are planning and hoping to spend our golden years on a houseboat.
Thanks, Chica. Yes, that houseboat idea of hers has got me thinking too. I’d probably have to learn to swim though.
Annie
Wow! This was a nice turning of the table! Great interview! I’m so glad to have the opportunity to get to “know” Anonymum a little better. Thanks so much, Annie!
Hey Teens, I’m glad you enjoyed the interview and got to know our Moe a little better. She is a truly amazing human being and one I am proud to call friend. Friend doesn’t even begin to describe it.
Annie
What a treat to read about two of my favorite bloggers in one day!
What very in-depth questions Annie. And Mum, I love your brutal honesty, but then you’ve never given any doubt about that side of you. I’m not sure 20 years would have been enough time for me to forgive anyone, even my sister, for that. I don’t blame you for not completely trusting her anymore, but I think very highly of you for attempting to forgive and allow her back into your life.
As always, you amaze me.
Hugs,
Jennifer
Hey Jen,
Glad you enjoyed the interview, we had a good time with it. I will leave it to Moe to address your comments to her.
Annie
I can’t begin to tell you just how much I enjoyed this.
A surprise X2 (with Moe’s post)
And Moe?
#4 almost made me teary.
God bless Morky! (i may call him that the next time we chat)
This was in your words “bloody marvelous”!
Now where’s the bloody vegemite and crackers?
~m
It was great fun, and Moe was a good sport in answering all my questions. I’m serving Margaritas and Nachos, you want vegemite, you know where to find it.
Annie
I do not know Moe but I enjoyed reading her answers and liked a lot of them. She seems to have really learned the lessons life has to teach and is pretty wise and sensible while still being passionate and fun. Gonna have to check her out……and check your interview out too!
Jez,
She is a wonderful, wonderful person - you’ll never find better anywhere. I can’t say enough good things about her.
Annie
Just read your interview and enjoyed it. I can’t imagine being a step mom. That in ways I think is harder than being a mom. I really liked your answer to the when were you happiest question too! And I am totally with you how no woman could make me go the other way. Gotta have…..well you know!;-)
Hey Jez,
Step-Momdom is a bit tricky - but it’s been years since then and they’re all grown up now. And oh, I know what a girl’s gotta have.
Annie
Maureen never fails to astound me with her candor and indomitable spirit. You asked the perfect questions to bring out the best in her.
And btw, I loved your answers to her questions. I am blushing like a little schoolgirl.
I have to agree with you whole-heartedly - no one else goes out of their way for you the way she does - nor makes you feel special the way she does. Love her to pieces.
LOL - I had a feeling you might like a couple of those answers. And blushing my ass, you probably have an ear to ear shit-eating grin. Love you too, darlin’
Annie
Read yours, loved it.
And this, too! Such wonderful answers/questions. You guys never cease to amaze me.
Thanks, honey. It was loads of fun, actually.
Annie
Talk about blush like a school girl! It’s not easy to make me blush, but I am…
Good god, how does one respond to these comments?
All I can really say is thanks guys..I enjoyed answering the questions, they were fun…not to mention thought provoking and probing, but in a good way…
Annie, this was a hoot honey…great idea…not too many people i’d agree to answer 10 for…but then i’m thinking you knew i’d have a hard time saying no to you anyway…damned hard to say no to family honey…
Hello my darlin’
Yes, it was a hoot and I’m glad we did it. And oh yeah, that song, “We are Family” does swirl about the brain when I think of you.
Love ya!
Annie
So honest.Wow!
Thank you. You all write really well, I feel so unintelegent with you lot not hard to say I’m as thick as pig shit Hehe!!
4. If you could make time stand still and keep one moment from your past, what moment would that be?
Wanna a litle story.
I had a boyfriend once - a long time ago I have to say. Not for long. He was one of those secret ones. He had lots of girlfriends, which I have to say I wasn’t pleased about.
He suffered so much with ear ache in his life time and this one particular day he asked me to get the drops of the top of the fridge and put some in his ear.
I get his head positioned so lovingly on my lap -I’m going to make the most of this contact, I’d had no attention all night. I very gently remove each strand of hair from his ear, very loving, very tendly, very slowly. Yes - I’m milking it. I want attention for god’s sake.
I begin to apply the drops, One by one and massage his ear and neck after each one, very gently, very tendly, very loving, very warm.
Well!!
On the fourth drop I smell something ‘not right’ as I say ‘What’s that smell’ he says ‘Fucking hell, my ears burning Diane’, but on with my loving mission I very gently tell him not to worry and apply the last drop.
His head still in my lap I put the top on the bottle.
Well !
I actually look at the bottle and say ‘ OMG ! OMG ! It’s super glue’ I’d put five drops of super glue in his ear instead of the ear ache drops.
I fill the sink up with cold water and tell him to put his ear in it and phone the hospital.
It’s the moment on the phone to the nurse that I would want to stand still. The laughing as I’m looking at him trying not to get his hair wet ( a very vain man ) with his ear in the sink telling me ‘ It’s not fucking funny ‘
Oh!! That moment has stood still for me. It’s delighted me over the years and has delighted many a friend to. I tell it with action’s when I tell the story.
He’s very much a ladies man and has hurt many ladies in his life.
Hehe!
Thanks for giving me the oppurtunity to tell this story again,
Di, that is one of the most hilarious stories I’ve ever heard. I was howling as I was reading it. You should submit that to a magazine or something. So, funny!
Love
Annie
Loving Diane x
3. What one unanswered dream are you still unwilling to let go of, no matter how improbable the realization?
I just always dream of falling in love and having that love returned. Thats my main one. Fucking really improbable the realization, but not willing to let go of it. Arn’t I soppy.
Thank you. Much love dear Annie and All.
PS Annie.
Can I ask you a question please. What do you mean by the word candid. I don’t usually hear that word and you have said it to me on a time or two.
I think I know a bit of what it means. Does it mean ‘funny’? We don’t use that word here in the UK. Well I don’t and none of me mates do. In fact Annie your the only person who has ever called me it.
Haha!! I’m I getting called something nice or wot ! Smiling.
Di x
Oh Sweetie,
Of course it’s a good thing. I was paying you a compliment. The way in which I meant the word was:
In other words, dear, I find you delightfully guileless and sincere and honest. It’s a good thing.
Love
Annie
I have only recently met Anonymum but love her blog and begged to be on her 10 question list which she kindly obliged. It was really nice to get to know her a little more. I like what I am learning about her. Her # 10 would be the same answer as mine except I am still Patiently waiting for grandchildren. Now I have to go over to her blog
Have a good day Annie!!!
Hey Joanie,
She is a doll and will bend over backwards to help anyone - a real keeper. I’m glad you have come to know her and that maybe the interview expedited that for you.
LOL with that cane of yours you two would be a dangerous combination.
Annie
Aww!! I like being candid then Hehe!! I think I like it anyway but never really knew the true meaning.
The second half of the story is…
The nurse and I through our hysteria managed to formalate a conversation telling me to get him to the ears.nose and throat unit - not at the local hospital, bloody miles away.
That night he had an operation, God knows what they did- I don’t. He was in hospital for three days. This man thanks me today. he’s never had earache since.
I’m so happy it was me who made the silly mistake. This man got his cum-up-unce and I’m so happy that my silly mistake made him all better in the end actually.
He his quite a nice man ( not a great boyfriend ) but a very funny person. He made me laugh loads. It’s so nice to see him and chuckle. We chuckle together about this story.
Oh!!
Moments,moments,moments, storeis,stories, stories stories.
I’m going to anonymum blog now to meet her. I love it when I feel like I now with blog energy and the transference of it.
Love
Di.
7. What does blogging fulfill for you - or does it?
Blogging for me had got me clean from opiate addiction. I lost both my parents and relasped for four months. AS you know I was clean and in recovery for 16 years.
I went to Australia on my own, came back and knew I had to start to live again. I didn’t want people tho. Don’t get me wrong I’m so loved. I’m very lucky to have five best women friends - how unbelievable is that. Five of em!
I live in an area which is dominated by recovery, and my best frineds don’t live by me. I have no-one to call in and have a cup of tea with me. I get so lonley it’s unbelievable. A real deep lonliness. I actually choose to live this way, quiet reclusive in my daily living. I’ve broken away from the fellowship of NA which I have been a member of for years but still had such an urgency to chat about my emotional journey. A need.
When asked what I want from a relationship - if I ever find one. I always answer ; I just want to share breakfast with some-one and chat about the day.
Thats all I want. aw!! Not a lot to bloody ask is it. Hehe!! I get what I want with you lot.Well the people I have connected to thro our blogs. I share breakfast with my blog and my blog connections.
Thank you everybody for blogging. You’ve actually all help me to save my life. Thank you darling Annie.
SO GRATEFUl
Diane x
Aw Di,
How funny that the superglu ear turned out good in the end. Maybe he needed that operation and wouldn’t have had it otherwise, eh?
As to the blogging and the friends. I quite agree - there are some awesome people out here and I’ve come to call many, friends - you among them, dear. I admire your strength, perseverance and courage in kicking your addiction, many don’t and can’t. You should feel proud of that accomplishment. And do go visit A-mum - she’s a love.
Love
Annie
I really enjoyed this..and I would love to live on a houseboat too..I would need to learn to swim..:) but what freedom..
That last answer is right on..no hesitation for a moment.
I’m going over to her blog too.
Hugs to ya Annie
It was a great interview, wasn’t it? You’ll love her - she’s top drawer and quite addictive too.
Hugs sweetie,
Annie
LOVE XOXO LOVE XOXO LOVE this interview. So open, honest, raw; Moe has a way of letting it all hang out while drawing you in! Best interview 2008, hands down; Q&A. Fantastic! The love that Anonymum has for her husband, kids, and grandkids is quite evident- that is first and foremost. I love her made up word, “Snortle” and when I head the word, “Fuck Buddy” I just nearly fell out of my chair - hilarious! Rip Roar’n interview!
I had a feeling you’d really enjoy this, Bella. She is a hoot and a love, no doubt about it.
Annie
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